Grey Hair, Don’t Care (I Wish!)

It’s time for another grey hair post! Every so often, I need to remind myself why I’ve decided to grow out my grey hair. I’ve reached the uncomfortable stage of this process. It’s been fun and surprisingly painless until now. My hairdresser has been using a variety of highlights and lowlights to blend the line of my roots growing out, and I’ve liked it. Highlights make me feel fancy. But the line’s been blended, my natural hair colour has grown out everywhere except at the top of my head where I’ve been getting highlights, and now my hairdresser says I’m ready to grow everything out.

Taken last fall, when I was still having fun with highlights.:)


I have mixed feelings about this. I love the freedom of less hair appointments, and not having to cover up roots all the time. But there is a lot of junk for me to work through in this process, because my grey roots make me feel old and unattractive. I wish I didn’t care about these things, but it turns out that I do, and it’s something I’m learning to deal with. Because I’m in transition, I don’t know if I’m just feeling the discomfort of having five different colours in my hair right now, and things will get better as everything grows out, or if I’ll still feel this way once I’ve reached my goal.

I look at pictures of grey hair, and I love it. It looks beautiful, but I don’t know if it will look beautiful on me. I’ve always struggled with change in general, so that might be contributing to my discomfort, as well.

Whatever the issue really is, the cure is always the same for me. I give myself a good talking to about what is truly most important in my life (it’s not hair colour!), and then I go find some fun pictures to remind myself to stop taking this all so seriously. It’ll be fine in the end.

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I’ve also come across a couple of interesting blog posts on growing out grey hair:

The Silver Lining – A Guide to Growing Out Your Natural Grey Hair

My Eight Best Secrets For Dealing With the Emotional Ups and Downs of Going Grey

Young and Grey? You Might Want to Just Stick With It

Five Reasons I Stopped Coloring My Hair

And here are the posts I’ve written in the past about my thoughts on grey hair:

My Grey Crown of Glory

Surrounding Myself With Grey Hair Inspiration

Have you ever thought about growing out your grey? Why or why not?



Surrounding Myself With Grey Hair Inspiration

Remember the post I wrote last year about going grey? It’s been on my mind for a long time, and a few months ago, I finally snapped – I was just DONE with dying my grey hair. I’m a busy mom with plenty of other things to do besides always thinking about my hair and going for appointments all the time, I’ve always been a low maintenance kind of girl, and constantly covering up my grey roots just wasn’t feeling right anymore.

I was never getting my grey roots covered fast enough to completely hide their existence anyway, so it seemed silly to keep dying my hair and pretending for a few weeks that I’m still naturally completely brunette. Everyone knows I have grey hair, because everyone can see my roots every few weeks, so I just wanted to stop pretending, feeling pressured to get to the hair dresser, and spending money and time on hiding my grey hair.

I started searching Pinterest for pictures of women with grey hair, and to my pleasant surprise, silver highlights were totally taking off last year – I saw them everywhere. Not around here in real life, but on the internet. It seemed extremely fortunate – this was a trend I could completely embrace.

I stopped dying my roots a few months ago, and am so thankful for a great hair dresser who knows what she’s doing. Each time I go in for an appointment, she surprises me with how well she’s able to blend that line in my hair as my roots are slowly growing out. I know there are women who just stop the hair dying process cold turkey, but I’m not interested in having such a bold line in my hair. So it still means I have to get my hair dyed, but not as often, and I don’t really need to worry about roots showing – I just get lowlights put in so the growing out process is a little more blended and gradual. It’s helping me ease into this transition in my life.

There are times when I actually surprisingly like having more grey showing, and other times when I feel a bit self-conscious about it. I feel kind of alone in the process, and wish I knew more women who are going through this. For those self-conscious days when I’m feeling a bit yucky about the whole thing, I go back to Pinterest, and look at my favorite pictures of grey hair – if I can’t find women I know who are going grey at a young age, at least I can surround myself with pictures of women who look amazing with grey hair! None of them are natural, of course, but they sure make it look good!

Here are some of my favorites:

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Anyone else out there who’s tired of dying grey roots?!

My Grey Crown of Glory…

So let’s just publicly state that I really, really dislike dying my hair.

I always knew it would be this way. I come from a long line of women who greyed prematurely. I found my first grey hair when I was in Grade 12. It was a bit of a shock, but really, I was fortunate – it could have been much earlier.

I held off on dying my hair as long as possible, because I knew that my time with my original hair colour was short and fleeting. I started highlighting my hair, because at least the original colour still showed through, but it finally reached the point where I needed to just give in and accept that it was time to dye all of my hair.

That was probably 10 years ago. And you know what? I’m just getting kinda sick of it. Not in a complaining way, but rather in a “I’m starting to question if this is actually a good idea” kind of way.

There are three pictures in my mind that I keep chewing on:

Picture #1:

I was driving down a residential street in Winnipeg one day when I saw a business woman getting out of her car. She was amazingly dressed – very professional and tasteful. She had short, modern hair – kind of edgy and stylish. And her hair was most decidedly grey.

She looked awesome.

As I kept driving, I kept wondering, “Could I pull that off?” I’d need an amazing haircut. I’d need to look like I was doing it on purpose, instead of looking like a shluffy, tired mom who just didn’t care anymore…

Picture #2

I was reading a yoga magazine at my massage therapist’s office, and came across an article about a yoga instructor who stopped dying her hair in order to accept who she truly was. She said she experienced such a huge sense of peace, acceptance, and joy from simply being herself, grey hair and all. She looked so comfortable in her own skin. (And her own hair!)

I started wondering, “How freeing would it be to just…stop? To stop letting society tell me what I need to look like, and just look like who I really am.

Picture #3

I saw this picture posted on my hairdresser’s facebook page:

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It’s stayed with me for months. I think she’s beautiful. In a really weird, totally against what has been culturally acceptable for years kind of way. But if you check out “funky grey hair” on Pinterest, it is amazing what’s out there. Is our culture changing it’s opinion on grey hair?

So who get’s to say what’s acceptable and beautiful? Who gets to tell me that I’m not beautiful if I have too much grey hair at too young an age?

I’ve got Proverbs 16:31 stuck in my head:

Grey hair is a crown of glory; it is gained by living a godly life.

Now, obviously, the woman in that photo did not gain her grey hair by living a godly life. She just made an appointment with her hair dresser.

But why do I keep fighting what God has created my body to do? Every single one of us will end up with grey hair, if we live long enough. What’s keeping me from embracing that? Am I afraid of what people will think? Afraid of aging?

Yes, to both of those….

I showed that photo to Ben and Anika, and the response was quite different. Ben is so easy-going, I could probably shave myself completely bald, and he wouldn’t have an issue with it. Anika, on the other hand, told me she would shave my head bald in the middle of the night if I ever made it look like that. Plus, she pointed out that the woman in the photo was naked, so that settled it for her.

But I’m still thinking about it…..I’ll probably keep thinking for a few years to come, but someday, much sooner than most of my peers, I think you’ll see me finally accepting my “crown of glory”!;)

What are your thoughts on grey hair?!