I was determined not to like Ben long before I ever met him.
I had someone very different picked out for my future. But when I mentioned to one of my best friends that a “Ben Dueck” was coming to work at Red Rock Bible Camp for the summer, and asked if she thought it was the same Ben Dueck that she had gone to Steinbach Bible College with, she burst out with, “Kendra, you’re totally going to date him!”
Not at all what I wanted to hear. I didn’t need any new potential-boyfriend material, because I already knew what I wanted. And I would prove to her that I would not date Ben Dueck. Especially since his last name was “Dueck.” My last name was Dueck. That would just be weird.
When he arrived at camp a few weeks later, I did my very best to avoid him.
But people kept introducing him to me. I’d try to sneak past the crowd of people with Ben Dueck in the middle of it, but someone would call out, “Hey, Kendra, have you met Ben yet?” I would mutter something polite and hurry away. And then 10 minutes later, I’d get called over by somebody else saying, “Kendra, I don’t think you’ve met Ben yet!” And I would say, “Yes, actually I have.” And then I’d leave again.
Later that day, all of the staff had to go up to the chapel to find out what skills (camp activities) we’d be teaching for the summer. I was pretty sure that I would be teaching canoeing, because I had taught it the whole summer before. What I did not expect, though, was that I’d be leading canoeing together with… Ben Dueck.
And when the director introduced the Head Skill Instructors as “Ben and Kendra Dueck”, I was extremely unimpressed.
The boy that I actually wanted to date was right there. And I was not going to date Ben Dueck. So there was no need to make it sound like we were married.
But… the problem was that the more time we spent together, the more I found out how much we just…clicked. I laughed at his jokes, and he laughed at mine. We talked about anything and everything, and I couldn’t help becoming friends with him.
Every year, Red Rock Bible Camp has an Open House. Anyone can come and try out all of the different camp activities, and see what the camp is like. My parents came to visit me that day, and since Ben and I had to be in charge of helping people get set up for canoeing, my parents spent the day with us down by the lake.
And it was so much fun, so natural. But it was the wrong guy! If I was going to spend the day with a boy and my parents, I would not have picked Ben Dueck!
But when my parents left that day, my dad said, “He’s the one that Kendra is going to marry.”
It took awhile for Ben and me to get it figured out, but I’m so glad we did! I’m so glad that God knew even better than I did what was best for me.
9 thoughts on “Chucking the Five-Year Plan: Part Two”
Just wanted to let you know how much I have been enjoying reading your blog. I kept seeing it coming up on face book and one day a few weeks ago I thought I would check it out and ever since than I am addicted to it. Love it, love seeing the girls, do you know I have yet to meet Kaylia? But going on to your blog I feel like I have. You have such a way with words which make the reading easy. As for you and Ben I’m a firm believer everything happens for a reason and that God is great. Keep up the good work, looking forward to reading and seeing more.
Thanks, Aunty Zann! You just made my day! I’m so glad that you’ve been able to feel more connected to our family. It’s been much too long since we’ve seen you! Hope your summer has been great!
I’m so glad you two ended up together. I love to see the way you fit together and complement each other so well. I’m glad that God knows what we need even when we fight His plan at every turn…I guess eventually, it really doesn’t help much to fight! Oh, and it was just so wonderful (and SHORT! 😦 ) to see you the other day. You are just such a blessing to me, dear old friend!
Did you recognize yourself in that story?! It was very wonderful to see you again, too! Wish it could happen much more…
I said to Rick, “I think I was in Kendra’s post today, but I’m not sure”. I feel very lucky to show up in your story. By the way, your “Chucking of the FIve Year Plan” posts are inspiring us at our house. Just keep those godly-woman thoughts coming. We appreciate you so very much.
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